I think the basic problem is that we have adopted, for no good reason a “tower or pole” dichotomy, and that there are two things that are topologically poles, but very different. One is the basic wood thing used in distribution and the other is the very tall bigger, usually metal, thing used in transmission.
I would propose labeling the big ones transmission_pole or big_pole or some other name. And then people can stop saying “it’s a big pole so I’m calling it a tower” – which I find to be nonsensical.